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mASF posts by GreenTea123 & zarathustra_fi, November 19-20, 2002

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GreenTea123, 11/19:

From David Deida's excellent book "The Way of the Superior Man" - Available on Amazon - highly recommend it for all aspiring PUA's.

On Oneitis:

A woman sometimes seems to want to be the most important thing in her mans life. However, if she is the most important thing, then she feels her man has made her the number one priority and is not fully dedicated or directed to divine growth and service. She will feel her mans dependence on her for his happiness and this will make her feel smothered by his neediness and clinging. A woman really wants her man to be totally dedicated to his highest purpose and also to love her fully. Although she would never Admit it, she wants to feel that her man would be willing to sacrifice their relationship for the sake of the highest purpose.

Imagine that a man must go off to war. He hugs his woman goodbye. She is crying
"Please don't go" she begs
"You know that I must" he answers
They look each other deeply in the eyes.
You know that I love you" he says to her.
"Yes I know, and I also know you must go" she replies, another gush of tears bursts from her heartbroken face.

He turns and walks out the door, to his necessary destiny, as his woman, full of pain and pride, watches him disappear.

This exaggeratedly dramatic scene captures a profound energetic principle////; Although your woman seems to want to be the most important thing in your life, she actually can trust and love you more if she is not.

A mans highest purpose is his priority, not his intimacy. Your woman knows this. Deep inside, she really wants it to be this way. The woman in the scene above would actually feel strange if her man suddenly said "I've changed my mind. You are more important to me than the freedom of mankind. You are the most important thing in my life, and I don't care if my service to humanity is needed elsewhere, so I'm staying here with you." Even though a part of her would feel glad, a deeper part of her would feel deflated, emptied, let down.

And yet, as her man leaves the door to accomplish his mission, she cries, wishing he didn't have to go. But he does have to go and she knows it.

If a woman has become the point of your life, you are lost. You have a gift to give, a purpose to fulfill, a deep heart impulse that moves you. If you have lost touch with this impulse, then you will begin to feel ambiguous in your life. You will make decisions because you have to, but they wont be guided by a deeper sense of purpose....

On Shit Tests:

What she wants is not what she says.

Sometimes a woman will make a request of her man in plain English, not to get him to do something, but to see if he is so weak that he will do it. In other words, she is testing his capacity to do what is right, not what she is asking for. In such cases, if the man does what his woman asks, she will be disappointed and angry. The man will have no idea why she is so angry or what could possibly please her. He must remember that her trust in engendered not by him fulfilling her requests, but by him magnifying love, consciousness and success in their lives, in spite of her requests.

This is a true story. A somewhat quiet and sensitive man was learning sexual yoga. In this yoga it is important to learn to bypass ejaculation, circulating the stimulated energy through the body and heart in a kind of whole body orgasm, rather than losing energy in a spasm of ejaculative release. He was also learning to express his animal like passion instead of always remaining calm and passive during sex.

One day, this man and his wife were driving in their car. Passing a park, they spontaneously decided to stop the car, run into the woods, and make wild love on the grass beneath the trees. Neither of them had even made love outdoors before. Here they were, clawing at each other, growling, shrieking, passionately aggressive with one another. It was a real breakthrough for them.

Suddenly the man realized he would ejaculate unless they slowed down for a few seconds. "Stop moving for a bit" he told his wife "if we keep going like this I'm going to come"

But the woman kept moving even more vigorously. "I want you to come inside of me" she begged" I want you to fill me with your seed"
The man had a split second to decide which way he was going to go, and he decided to let go and give his woman her wish. He ejaculated inside of her and relaxed.

But when he looked at his wife's face, she was clearly upset. "What's wrong he asked"
"you came" she answered
"But you said you wanted me to fill you with my seed didn't you"
"Yes but I said that in order to feel you were strong enough not to!"
The man felt depleted and empty. He felt he had failed in his practice of sexual yoga. He knew that ejaculating had not been the right thing to do in the moment, but he had succumbed to his wife's wish. Now she was disappointed. When she said to fill her with his seed, she really wanted to feel he was strong enough to maintain what he knew was right, and not ejaculate. That would have been much more erotic to her, more polarizing, and more trust producing than his obedience to her request to ejaculate.

Your woman probably tests you in this way all the time. Her ultimate desire is to feel your full consciousness, your trustable integrity, your unshakable love, and your confidence in your mission. Yet she will rarely ask you directly for these things. She would rather try to distract you from your truth, and then feel that she cannot-that you hold fast to your truth while you continue to love her.

If you are a weak man, this feminine trait of wanting one thing and asking for another will piss you off. You will wonder "why don't you tell me what you really want instead of saying one thing and meaning another expecting me to figure it out". This is the view of a man who does not understand that women are an incarnation of the divine feminine. And the divine feminine does not settle for anything less than the divine masculine.

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zarathustra_fi, 11/20, in response to GreenTea123:

>On Shit Tests:
>
>What She wants is not what she
>says
>
>Sometimes a woman will make a
>request of her man in plain
>English, not to get him to do
>something, but to see if he is
>so weak that he will do it.
>In other words, she is testing
>his capacity to do what is
>right, not what she is asking
>for. In such cases, if the
>man does what his woman asks,
>she will be disappointed and
>angry. The man will have no
>idea why she is so angry or
>what could possibly please
>her. He must remember that
>her trust in engendered not by
>him fulfilling her requests,
>but by him magnifying love,
>consciousness and success in
>their lives, in spite of her
>requests.

***And this is the tragedy of the MODERN WOMAN. Modern woman lost her conscious capability of respecting real men and she has to test this at THE LARGEST POSSIBLE EXTENT. So they are so confused when they notice how the man they like the most is always the one who is "out there" like an hero on a white horse..

***So guys remember that man´s first purpose IS NOT pleasing his own women but it is his OWN MISSION. It can be running a company, jumping with parachute on Kabul, making new discoveries.. Women know that in their instinctual world and test us all the time because we are the one who protect them and their children with our mission.

***For example I have been following with interest how ladies started to get interested with those alpha firemen and policemen after the WTC.. They know they will be protecting their ass the next time..

***Thank for this post. Obviously I do well when I tell her "Darling we cannot meet today. I have a meeting at the board of the company" and don´t care about her words "I guess You will never have time for our private life".. and than I watch how she waits for me to fuck her..

Franco
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