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The key to success with pick up
So much has been written on seduction that it feels almost redundant to write on it at all. The fact of the matter is the only way to get, “good” is to practice.
I was having coffee with a community friend, a relative newcomer to the game, and he was lamenting over his lack of success in the dating realm.
The next issue; you go out, learn how to talk to chicks at bars, parties, on the street, but come home at night with no numbers, no kisses, and spank yourself to sleep. I can tell within 15 seconds whether it’s on or not. I can tell by the way a woman looks at me, if her eyes go wide, if she plays with her hair, fidgets, asks a question, smiles, or simply remains in my space giving off the “vibe.”
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“Zardoz, I can approach and attract a woman, but then she leaves and I can’t get her back.”
If you need a bootcamp so someone can tell you to push yourself, that’s fine. Coaching will show you what’s possible in a short amount of time. I taught myself by reading theory and dating social circle girls for a year to learn female psychology, then going out 4-7 days a week for another year to master cold approach. I did this because it’s what the pros did. Model those with success.
Have fun.
I’ve met guys that are so down on themselves due to lack of success, lack of results, lack, lack, lack. I’ve been there, we all have. I’ve noticed a common thread, three things that keep guys from getting really good at cold approach pickups:
1. Not enough practice
2. Not assuming attraction
3. Not pushing the limit
“I just get so nervous on the approach, and then I don’t know what to say. Give me some lines Zardoz.”
“How many times do you get out socializing a week?” I ask.
“I get out on the weekend, Friday and Saturday.”
“You’re a really good artist, how many days a week do you spend practicing art?”
“Well, when I first started it was everyday, as often as possible.”
“Do you think you would be this good if you practiced eight hours a week? No way. You can ask me all the questions about pickup you want, but until you get out there and practice as much as possible, you won’t make much progress.
er enough practice you’ll instinctively know when, “it’s on.” After hundreds of approaches there’ll come a point when it’s always, “on.” After numerous successes your bloated ego takes charge assumes attraction. “Holy shit! I’m hot!” You don’t have to pretend anymore.
Guys get to this point and they’re so blown away that a girl likes them; they don’t escalate out of fear of screwing it up. Screw it up! Forget everything you’ve read about what to do, what not to do, etc. If you feel like grabbing her around the waist, telling her she’s, “really pretty,” asking for a number, dragging her outside for a walk, spanking her ass, pulling to the bathroom, etc, do it.
Push the limit of what she’ll find acceptable, because if you find it acceptable, that’s all that matters. She wants to live in your reality, she may not know it, but that’s how it works. Push yourself to the next step because it’s the only way to learn what will work.
Brad p has a great structure that for every one hour of study, there should be two hours of in field experience (is that what he said?) I think this is a good philosophy. Remember to assume you “are the prize,” in all interactions and push the boundaries of what appears possible. This regimen should get results consistent with learning any skill on a professional level.
