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I caught a glimpse of TV's House yesterday for about. After the first 3 lines I already knew what he was talking about. I knew what option D was.

*House is administering some kind of treatment to the patient in bed sitting next to him*
House: There are only 3 options in life. Be great. Get great. Or give up.
pause
House: You however, have chosen option D. You don't try because then you can't fail.

Scene.

Let me repeat this.

You don't try because you can't fail.

I've always thought I had AA or SA. That's what I labeled myself as having. After all... why won't I approach certain girls in most situations. However, wearing a dress to the mall really helped me gain a whole new perspective and immediately change some beliefs in my mind. I do not have AA or SA. I do not care what other people are thinking. Whether someone were to actually think I 'have AA' or 'have SA' is now irrelevant because I SO STRONGLY believe that I no longer do. It's not an issue in my head in my head anymore. It's more basic. It only has to do with myself, and it's the statement above.

I don't try because then I can't fail.

I posted a big about me playing basketball throughout my life. When asked if I was good I would always say "I'm not very good" and then light it up at game time. This way, I couldn't fail the expectations I set. Had I said "I'm awesome" and then didn't play awesome... I would have felt like I failed.

2 thursdays ago my and LTR and I broke everything off. I need to break all communication. Pictures, calls, texts, and thoughts. The next day... my ENERGY WAS FUCKING INCREDIBLE!!

I step into work that morning and I'm fucking beaming. I'm making coversation with everyone, saying hi to everyone, making conversation with people on the elevator ride up. My thoughts this friday were fucking amazing. I was my complete confident self. The confident person I KNOW I CAN BE at all times, but is held back because

if you don't try, you can't fail.

So I get an email in my Inbox before noon and its from this girl in my office who I'm gonna say is between 28-33. She sends me something along the lines of "I don't normally do this but I was wondering if one day after work you wanted to go for coffee or a drink or whatever' etc. [This was a great boost in knowing that I'm gonna get girls again in the future after my break up 12 hours earlier.]

Then, not but 4 hours afterward a woman on my team who I think is 39 pops me up on msn. It went something like this

Her: hey
Me: hey
Her: You know, you're positivity is really great to see!
Her: You look really good today. You look good in black
Her: There is this really nice sparkle in your eyes that is nice to see

So, in the 6 short hours that I had been awake in my energy was fucking electric to the point that two coworkers (one married) were hitting on me. FUCK YEAH.

I want to mention Corvette's Reductionist theory. This is case in point right here. There is this awesome confident person in me, that emits this awesome energy and knows what to do and say in every situtation. But for the most part... this person is held back because...

If you don't try, you can't fail.

It boils down to this.

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Right now, in my reality "I KNOW I CAN BECOME AWESOME AT THIS GAME. 110%". However, if I go out there and TRY MY BEST... and don't succeed... then my reality will change and I WILL KNOW THAT I CAN'T DO IT. If I try my hardest... and don't make it... then there is nothing else you can do.

So... I am more comfortable now KNOWING IN MY REALITY THAT I CAN DO IT and NOT TRYING... then going out and possibly finding out I can't do it and it changing my reality to I CANT DO IT
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I 'misinterpreted' myself having AA for awhile... but it's not. I had a blast in the dress at the mall. It's that I'm afraid of the possibility of not being able to do what I know I can.

Has anyone dealt with this? I think this is probably a very common problem with the human mindset. It's probably pysch 101.

I really need to reframe failure, reframe rejection, or maybe find other things that I identify with so that if I try my hardest and don't succeed I will still identify with the other great things I have to offer in life. Know what I mean.