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I have an old friend from HS. He used to be not that great looking and
pretty awkward, but he developed over the years and grew up and now is very
good looking, smart, successful, etc. When we used to hang out, I would
never feel threatened by him and could always demonstrate the "most value",
to use ASF terms. But now, I feel (and maybe this is in my head) that girls
pay him tons more attention and I just feel like it is harder for me to
compete. The issue here is not how to out-alpha him - he is my friend and I
do not want to succeed at his expense. I still have plenty of game. I just
get this strange sinking feeling in my stomach and completely lose state
when I feel that he is better than me when we talk to girls. Some nights I
don't get this, as I am a better talker in general, but some nights I just
feel that women are more attracted to him off the bat because of his looks
and this just kills my state. I get quiet and it's hard to get back into
things...you all know the feeling.
Sometimes I just wish I could move to another city or another country and
start over where I can be top dog again, but I know this is not tackling the
problem head on, and besides I wouldn't really do that. But that's the way I
start thinking. I am so used to being "on" and "in state" and "alpha" that
it is so strange when this happens, I do not know how to deal with it.
I'd like to figure out how to just swallow my pride and deal with what I
have - which is a good game and decent looks. It just feels like PU is all
relative. I don't want to be a girl's second choice. It really ruins my
state sometimes. I know it's all state of mind but believe me, understanding
that in a logical way does not translate into feeling good about it in real
time. Does anyone have any advice on dealing with this situation? Thanks.
Hey guys, I was hoping one or two of you had worked through a similar
experience and could lend some advice. To make a long story short:
