The debate of "nice guys vs. jerks" has been raging for quite a long time.
The nature of being a "nice guy", however, is commonly misunderstood. It is
believed that being polite, considerate, friendly, tender, romantic, etc. is what being a
"nice guy" is all about and thus those qualities should be avoided, as it is the
"jerk", the rude, the inconsiderate, the impolite, the rough guy who always gets
the girl while the "nice guy" is waiting outside in the pouring rain with
flowers in his hand. It doesn't mean that women prefer rude over polite, inconsiderate over considerate,
etc. It all becomes clear when we look at a very important issue often overlooked when
trying to define what makes the "jerks" beat the "nice guys" when it
comes to getting the girls. It is sexuality - the "jerks" are not afraid to show
that they are sexual beings, while the "nice guys" hide their sexuality as a
part of their agenda of being friendly, polite, and courteous towards women. Peta, Clifford's Seduction Newsletter: "It dawned on me as it has, that
the androgyny is key. Women fall for bastards because they don't turn off the sexuality..
"nice" guys think women will be terrified of their sexuality, so they turn it
off and all they get is women responding to their androgyny [sending all nice guys to
LJBF-land]" See also:
Kinesthetics
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