When you are eliciting her values or letting her describe her feelings while
patterning, listen intently to what she has to say and more importantly, what words she
uses to express herself. The words she puts particular emphasis on or repeats frequently are her so-called
trance words. This means that by using the very same words she uses you will be able to
tap directly into her consciousness and subconscious. After all, those are the words she
thinks with and is most familiar with. And hearing you use them, she feels you understand
her so completely, you are like a soul-mate, and whatever you say to her is much more
likely to be understood and most importantly - liked by her:) A rough implementation of using trance words would be to take what she tells you and
feed it back to her in a slightly different robing using her personal trance words. But
when I say rough, I don't mean that its not working - the fact that it just doesn't have
much style, doesn't mean that it isn't deadly effective:) A more sophisticated approach would be to listen to and remember her trance words. And
use them a little later:) And maybe in a slightly different context:) But the difference
between this and the first method is only subtle - here you just have to use a little more
imagination and have a good memory:) An example:
You: "If I were to ask you, what's the most important thing in a relationship,
how would you describe it to me?"
Her: "I want a man who makes me feel comfortable with myself" (you
remember "feel" and " comfortable")
You: "Wouldn't it be nice if you could spend time with a man who makes you
feel like you could let down your guard and just be comfortable? Whose voice soothed and
at the same time stimulated you? I get the feeling that this could happen to you right
now, with me." | 
