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Ross Jeffries: "The first key to understanding Thought Binding is to recognise
that people are basically hypnosis machines. If you tell their minds in what direction to
move will absolutely DO IT EVERYTIME because people are not use to hearing these kinds of
instructions. People are used to hearing babbling about content, in other words, reasons,
data and facts, and that kind of stuff they can, do and WILL resist. But binding the
direction of their thoughts? NEVER! Let me give you an example. Suppose their is some very
nice young girl you want to impress. You could tell her lots of stuff about you. Ya know,
say something dumb like: "Well lots of women like me because I'm smart and funny and make good money, but
other's find it's my honesty and looks that they are attracted to". Yeah. Right. Well, problem is, you are tossing those facts, reasons and info at her,
and like as not, she's heard this a zillion times before and isn't gonna buy it. If you
must use an approach like this, why not bind the direction of her thoughts first? You'd do
it like this: "Hey, did you ever meet someone, and just instantly knew that you had to get to
know this person better (point to yourself)? Maybe as you went inside and really got all
excited about how much fun it'd be to get to know him and how curious and intrigued you
were feeling? As you REMEMBER THOSE FEELINGS AS WE'RE TALKING, I'm just curious, do you
first imagine how much fun they'd be to hang out with, and then get intrigued, or do you
get intrigued first and then imagine how much fun this person would be (point to
yourself)?"
Now, what are you doing here? You're setting up a mood and state of mind that's going to
make her a lot more receptive by:
- Having her recall what it's like to be in the mood you want her in (setting up the
thought direction).
- Giving her a command to STAY IN THAT MOOD WHILE SHE TALKS WITH YOU by using the phrase
"as you remember those feelings as we're talking" (Binding the thought
direction).
You've now set her up to be MUCH MORE RECEPTIVE to any "facts" about yourself
you want to throw because you've set up and BOUND the direction of her thinking and
emotional processes. From here on out, unless you are very stupid, she's dead meat. And
the beauty is THEY NEVER CATCH IT, cause they aren't used to hearing it or looking for it.
They just know they find you mesmerising, hypnotically fascinating and irresistibly
attractive:) Notice also that we end by asking them about the order in which they did the
process. That's to further mask the fact that we are giving commands by making it seem
like the only reason we brought it up in the first place is we we're genuinely interested
in learning about them! Ha! Are we sneaks, or what? By the way, the phrase "AS YOU
REMEMBER"... is what we call a pre-supposition. A pre-supposition is just anything
that HAS to be ASSUMED to be true in order for the sentence to make sense and be
understood. Thus, with "AS YOU REMEMBER", the presupposition is that they WILL
remember. Slick, isn't it? Every decision people make is based in and dependent on their state of mind. If you
don't like their decision, change their state of mind before you try to change the
decision. So the key here, is to set up the right state using some of the thought binding
techniques we've discussed, but also to recognise, that if you're getting resistance from
a woman in the form of broken dates, calls promised but not made, etc., you need to back
up and ask yourself the following questions:
- Hmmm. What state of mind is she in right now with regard to me?
- What's the final state I want her in?
- How can I have fun transitioning her to the state I want her to be in when I pounce?
You can think of this as building a chain of states, with the state she's currently in
as the first link, and the final state you want her in as the dog collar that's gonna go
'round her neck! Let's say she, for whatever reason, is in a state of INDIFFERENCE about
going out with you. And let's say the final state you want her in is DROOLING OF DESIRE TO
BE WITH YOU. Bit of a gap, huh? What you need to do here is come up with a state in
between as a nice transition, like say, curiosity or intrigue, using some of our thought
binding/pre-supposition techniques. You could try something like this: "You know, when we go out, I don't know whether it will be an incredibly exciting
adventure or just a wonderfully fun time, but it sure is going to feel good to laugh a
lot, isn't it? When you think about it like that, are you aware of how much more it makes
you really look forward to doing it?" Now, that's LOADED with presuppositions. They are:
- That we are GOING to go out.
- That it's either going to be incredibly exciting or wonderfully fun.
- That we are going to laugh a lot.
- That she's thinking about it like that.
- That it DOES make her look forward to doing it (the only question is how aware of it she
is... this is a whole sub-class of "awareness" presuppositions, using words like
"aware" "recognise" "know" "realise" etc.)
Now, does this sort of thing work? YES! IF... you deliver it with a smile and a laugh
and say it like you MEAN it and expect that it's going to work! See, you need to make your
tonality and delivery convey that YOU presuppose a POSITIVE outcome for your entire
communication!!! So, the rule is to ALWAYS presuppose a positive outcome in your
communication and ALWAYS present a communication that forces her to presuppose accepting
AND (and this is a VERY important "and") ENJOYING IT! If you don't link fun and
pleasure she's going to reject the entire communication!!! If you DO link pleasure and
communication she won't resist cause she WON'T WANT TO!!!" | |