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9 Easy Steps To Becoming A PUA 1. Read ALL of the ASF archives
Seriously. Before you ever post a question again or spend one cent on seduction products (apart from live in-field coaching), read up all of the ASF archives which are available. They contain so much knowledge, and the best thing, they are FREE. You can find them here:
EDIT: Reading the archives should be combined with massive in-field experience. Otherwise you will not be able to figure out your Sticking Points and waste your time reading all kinds of posts without a real purpose. You need to know WHAT kind of information you are looking for, and WHY!
2. Make going out a habit
You should sarge at least 3 times a week. If you have to get up early every morning, try street sarging, it doesn't always have to be clubs. Just get out there AT LEAST 3 times a week to hone your skills. Becoming a PUA is like learning an instrument, you have to practice to get good at it.
3. Get some hot female friends
Go out for a couple nights with the agenda to just make friends with some hot women. You can use your new female friends as pivots, and most importantly, they will introduce you to other women. It's a win-win situation. And the best, you'll learn how to act NORMAL around beautiful women, which is something most men never get.
4. Get involved in the community
Join a Lair or get a wing... just do whatever it takes to get around people who have the same goals as you have.
5. Go out alone
This is no contradiction to step 4! You should find a good mix between going out with other "community guys" and going out alone. Solo sarging is a great thing and will help you to skyrocket your game. You will do your best when you are alone and you will be somewhat FORCED to approach, which oftentimes a very important thing for newbies. If you go out with your wing there's no pressure. You can always talk to him if you "don't feel like" talking to other people, but usually the two of you will just discuss openers or other Pickup related stuff which is deadly for newbies. It will kill your state, cause you will be inside and not outside of your own head. You need to learn how to run game alone, without a wing, otherwise you will always be dependent on other people which is something you should strongly avoid.
6. Focus on building a big social circle
When you go out, don't exclusively focus on picking up women, also focus on building a big social circle. #close cool people (women AND men) which you ARE NOT sexually attracted to but have the same things in common with you and will make good friends. The bigger your social circle, the easier it will be for you to get laid.
You should also be able to hang out with "normal" people every now and then. Don't become one of those guys who has no "real" friends and surrounds himself with PUAs 24/7. Pickup should only be ONE of MANY aspects in your life. Yes, it is a lifestyle, but you will miss out on a lot of nice things if Pickup is the ONLY thing you know.
7. Style and physical appearance
a) Read some fashion magazines or consult a stylist
b) Buy the best clothes you can afford
c) Get a new haircut
d) Work out
8. Personal Development
IMHO you can only become a really outstanding PUA if you have your WHOLE life together. That includes your finances, your relationships with friends/parents/etc, your car, your apartment.. the list could go on and on.
Pickup is not a magic pill and will solve all of your problems. It's only ONE aspect of Personal Development. You have to develop yourself in EVERY aspect of life. You need focus and direction. You need to know what's your purpose in life and what you want to get out of those years you have left on this planet.
Here's a list of my favorite "self-help gurus", which I highly suggest you to check out:
9. Figure out what YOU REALLY WANT
Yes, at the end of the day Pickup is about men and women getting together, so what kind of woman do YOU want? Do you find her in house clubs? Does your "ideal" woman even go to clubs or is she just someone who you'd meet at a Yoga class or in the park? Don't waste your time in places where you will not meet your "ideal woman". And if you only find her on the street, then specialize on street sarging. There's no need for you to do anything else! I say FUCK street game if you like trashy club chicks and FUCK club game if you like down to earth women. Figure out what you want, and then go after it and don't waste your time on anything that will not get you the results you REALLY want.
Follow these steps and you will be well on your way to becoming a PUA!
-Storyteller
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Just do whatever necessary to get a basic knowledge about fashion and what kind of colors, clothes, etc, suit you best.
Do not buy 6 outfits which are mediocre, rather spend all of your money on ONE really outstanding outfit and buy a second one once you have more money available.
Go to a well-known hair saloon in your city and get a great haircut that suits your personal style and face shape. It'll be money well spent!
Hit the gym, do a marathon.. just do whatever necessary to keep yourself in shape. You can still get laid if you're fat, but it'll only make things harder, so don't be your own enemy.
- Anthony Robbins (especially his "Personal Power II" program)
- Wayne Dyer
- Napoleon Hill (especially his book "Think & Grow Rich"
- Brian Tracy
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