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Women suck in alot of energy, reach critical mass and need to unload. Sometimes in the form of shit tests, sometimes in the form of gossip, sometimes in the form of aggression.
They may not even understand, why they are doing it. I've talked to quite a few girls about shit testing, and even the smartest girls still do it. Generally the response is "I don't know why I do it". So that leads me to believe its completely hormonal and biological.
You may be just talking to a girl, about something and the girl spouts out
Well this is because, all these things have been going through her mind, and she has to "let it out".
She has to let out, the words
Guys tend to speak with a point.. We will only say that kind of thing, because we are feeling uncomfortable, and there really is a large obstacle in the way. For example, she isn't pretty enough, and you are squemish about the idea of sticking it in.
You may have been creating sexual tension, and the girl just brings it up "I'm not going to have sex with you".
Basically she's been thinking about it. And needs to unload.
IT HAS ABSOLUTELY NO POINT!
Think of them like a retarded bear that, every time tuesday comes around HAS TO SAY IT! "ITS TUESDAY EVERYBODY!"
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Last weekend, I'm talking to this girl, and we are bantering into each others ears. And she is shit testing me with all sorts of things, but I really am not listening to her. Like literally, I wasn't trying to hear through the music to these shit tests .
And shes just letting em spurt out, and they are just whizzing past my ear.
When I was younger, I did this too. If a girl said something like "I'm working" when I tried to kiss her, I was like SHE WANTS TO KISS ME THEN! Awesome!
Basically, I've come to one conclusion.
... So what does this mean?.. Well it doesn't mean anything. Which means, shit tests, don't really have a point. AND THEY DON'T HAVE ORDER.
All there need requires, is for the topic to be there.
For example:
She has topics, and key words, floating around her head, and she needs to unload.
What does she hope to gain by having a TOPIC, out in the open?
Now you may think this is just about your nose, but hahaha, oh no it probably isn't.
Now you may be thinking "shes trying to betaise me" or she is "shit testing me".. But nah, not really, she is just thinking about you, feeling things about you alot, and it could be good or bad, most likely good.
It seems to a guy, that she questions all these things in one sentence, which is an infuriating web of shit!
Instead I want you to focus on, that it takes interest, for these thoughts to creep into her head, and build up to that extent.
They are not a structured army of doom, just simply, things like "interest", "in you", "not".
Crazy right!
There are many ways to handle this, but since I've talked about what this means, I want to now talk about what they are really expecting to hear.
When a girl unloads, its important you understand, it is hormonal, and biological that she unloads, because she has built up so much stuff, from taking everything in.
So basically, I'll try to reconstruct what she SHOULD, know she needs, but doesn't.
So basically, there are these, unstructured things floating around, that just came out of her mouth. You have two choices, RAM THEM BACK IN AGAIN, IN ORDER!
Like, AH! I'm on the right track, thats a healthy balance of interest, and stuff in there, GOOD!
You can either be a reorder, and chuck back in guy. Or you can be a "oh cool, and analasis report" guy.
The funny thing is, SHE THINKS, she has a purpose for saying it, and she'll stand there, huffing and puffing, all strong, and then like ten seconds later, the adrenaline hormone build up will ware off and she'll be like WTF just happened!
Its hormonal, its okay. She just needs to "unload" the information, hormone, and feeling build up. And she'll think she has a point. But nah, she doesn't, she just expells.
Now you can shove it back in, in your order. Which, is just bound to give you more shit tests, cuz she is gonna get full again real fast. Plus you have to be pretty brilliant to organise those mother fuckers into something that'll work for you (but you can).
Now you can use this apple, show it to her, distract her with it, or you can just use it however you like really. Her hormone toughness will wear off in like ten seconds, and she'll realise she isn't as big or as vulnerable, or as whatever as she thinks.
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Now, I want to get onto something else.
They basically, water down all her thoughts. So they dissolve. And she doesn't need to unload.
You can make it so your actions, just make her thoughts and topics, SO FLUID, that they just seep out of her ALL THE TIME. She can't retain them. She just gets woosey, and like, "wha, where, wha? Huh?".
I can't quite explain how I personally avoid this build up. Cuz its more of a feeling. Where I annoy the fuck out of her, but charm her right after. Thus everything before hand is forgotten.
I know girls have large and long memories. But so long as they put it in the back BECAUSE, they are starry eyed, they actually don't place it in the same basket as the unload basket. Its put CALMLY back.
Basically, what she needs to unload is REALNESS, things, SHE THINKS, that come through her semi conscious filters. But things that are distracting, and pointless, and just charming little things, are too liquid, to build up.
Real more one on one, interactions, tend to just fill her with bundles of different topics and ideas, and key words.
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So what is the point of this post?
So you don't run her through the same filters, you run yourself through.
Hope this helps
Women, have the NEED to unload, they have compulsions to multitask and focus on many things.
This fills em up, and basically most of what they say and do has "no point".
All these things come into her world, and she "just has" to talk about it.
Girl: You and me are never going to be together!
OUT OF FUCKING NOWHERE!
And generally girls only "let it out" with people they like, they tend to be silent with guys they don't trust.
The reason she says "we won't", is most likely just a way to organise the feelings within her, so they can be expressed without shame.
You and me, sex, together..
Its just bombarding her mind, she has to talk about it. Whether it be with friends, or whether it be at you.
Whilst chicks are just over burdened with feelings, and spurt it out, and don't care how. They need to unload.
You should notice, that this is UNBURDENING HERSELF, of the key words floating in her head.
Sex, with you, I am going, to.
Everybody knows he is gonna say it, its the most retarded thing in the world. But he does it.
But all the time I was seeing her acting very involved in me, wanting to kiss me etc.
And I was just sort of taking all these things as "she is thinking about me, she has so many thoughts about me SHE HAS MADE UP.. ok".
I'm sorry, I just could help but take these as signs of interest.
Like the opportunist I am, looking for her real thoughts.
Womens feelings well up, and they need to unload specific words and topics. Don't worry about the order of the words, or the grammar.
She doesn't mean anything generally. She just wants to put the topics and feelings, and stuff OUT THERE. Cuz they are welling up IN HERE.
And things that don't have order, don't need to be responded to in order.
Girl: I am not going to sleep with you
Cosy: (okay, cool topic is out).. (three minutes later, turns her around and kisses her)
Girl: (smiles and just GOES NUTS, ripping on his clothes)
There is no order to it.
Mostly just to unburden herself. She probably doesn't even have an opinion on it. No structure behind the thought.
Things like
Girl: You have a fucked up nose
Is most likely said, cuz she is thinking about your entire body, the way you do things, your hands, your shoulders, the way you stand, the way you are talking to her, the sexual tension between you etc etc.
Fuck now she needs to unload!
Its about sexual tension, and how you are acting, all of your looks, and the nose is a simple expression that she can hide behind, to make all these things TOPICS.
However, its not.. Its just topics, she doesn't REALLY have much opinion on. She tries to be efficient in multitasking all the things she lets into her head, so she doesn't do much with those thoughts.
And I want you to realise, there is no structure or purpose, but simply to get out these key topics and words and feelings.
Very unsensical to a man!
She feels all these feelings, and it ACTUALLY DOESN'T ORGANISE.
Us guys, take all this stuff into account, and organise it, to make one opinion!
The girl just takes in everything, and has a million opinions, not fully formed. And she gets all tight, and built up, and just unloads.
So the release, and what she expects to gain from it is also messed up by hormones.
She THINKS she wants something, but doesn't really know what is.. Such are hormones!!
Basically, she lets out TOPICS, and she lets them out cuz she's been thinking about them etc. (lol, yes, alot more than you have, but she is a multi tasker! She doesn't build off of it).
OR, just go hmmm, hahaha, interesting, and leave em to blow away, and start implanting new ones inside her to build up.
Oh yeah, SHE LIKES ME!
Oh crap! I didn't really have idea what I was after by saying that! What!
Or you can just, pick one golden gem! She gives you all this crazy stuff, and you go, AWESOME! And pick out this apple floating in the stream.
What stops build up!
Well, things like fear, detatchement, lostness, confusion, distraction, manliness, simplicity, (charm that makes her giggle its that liquifyingly powerful).
They make her giddy, and unstructured, and completely out of control of herself.
She does a little Huck yuck, snort giggle, but its essentially lost all its power.
Mostly because that is masculine, and masculine charm dissolves potential for shit tests.
Distracted, more non sensical, liquifying interactions, tend to make all those thoughts just flow away with the tides of the ocean.
Mostly, just simply to understand girls more fully.. But not even that, more to understand the dynamics that cause affects in her, so that naturally, our desires as men come out, and are allowed to give value.
Shit tests, is kind of a lame term, because women aren't men. They don't structure it like that. Instead they have all sorts of different womanly things going on.
And we kind of have to understand it, without really knowing how the fuck it relates to us personally. Mostly because, it really doesn't relate, to the way guys think.
