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When I train others, explaining how they could act in specific situations, I often notice a certain look in their eyes:
This is not about congruency. It's that people seem to believe they chose a track in their life and check if the upcoming action is not too far off that track. Of course, the track gets narrower over time - and thus options fade.
As this happens subconsciously, I usually bring it to the persons' attention at some point.
Imagine interactions with different persons - are YOU the same person?
Are you always punctual when you arrange to meet somebody? Who is the person you are not punctual with when meeting him or her?
You "are" NOT "that guy who ..." anyways - so why build a "new guy who ..." in the first place?
Give people as few options as possible to put a stamp on you. You "are" not a painter - You are the person who paints. You are not an engineer. You are the person who .. "engineers stuff" (or whatever ).
Always be the one who you want to be in the specific situation - or be the character who you NEED to be to achieve a specific goal. If you do it right, then you'll have only a very basic stamp left: "versatile"
Remember Batman? "It isn't who you are on the inside - it's what you do that defines you." So do stuff - but don't become it!
Now that looks like a pretty simple concept. What would be the benefits of it?
I may be exaggerating a bit here. Actually, I am only proposing a type of game in which you aren't a desirable guy only for some specific girls who like your specific "identity".
When I say "understand", don't "try to grasp what's on her mind" - I mean understand her basic needs. Keep it simple - one or two will suffice. ... actually ... it IS simple: "desire for sex" is commonly the universal core desire.
(Inspired by Z's featured post at http://www.fastseduction.com/whatsnew/featured/2010/01/2010-01-05a.shtml)
"Hmm ... could that be me?", they seem to be asking themselves if they could do what I just told them, or if it would not "fit" them.
All that due to a believe - due to the illusion of a "track"!
That's why the headline of Z's post was so intriguing to me - In my view, people should NOT focus on "their identity" as it doesn't actually exist in the first place.
Imagine talking to your dad ... and then imagine talking to a mate. Take different people.
You will notice that, no matter how "strong" (or whatever) you are, under the "observation" of different persons, you will be affected to some point. Your actions will change at least a little bit.
Have you ever been sad? ... Have you ever been happy?
You may get the picture by now. You change continuously.
Being "versatile" is being a genius - and not being it. It's being exactly the guy the girl wants, because she has all the imaginable free space she can fill with her own desires. You will be her desire.
In my view, your game is only perfect when you understand. Understand the hot club chicks, understand sporty, understand the sensitive art-loving girl; You want to be "alpha"? Also become "omega" - and everything in between.
So fuck the past - it's only an illusion by NOW.
That's probably my Finnish class for today
Hope you can make something useful of it.
